We are all meant to play the lead roles in our own lives, yet so many of us feel like we have been cast as extras instead.
Make yourself a priority. Choose to love and accept yourself. Self-acceptance doesn’t mean never trying to improve yourself, but it means that you accept the beautiful foundation you are working with. Here are a few tips that can help you learn to love yourself.
Start with Self-Acceptance if You are After Self-Love
Choose to love and accept yourself. Self-acceptance doesn’t mean never trying to improve yourself, but it means that you accept the beautiful foundation you are working with.
You have to realise your own worth. Love every bit about yourself and the road you are travelling on. Your main focus should be becoming the best version of yourself and not trying to be like somebody else.
Practice Self-Care for Self-Love
Before you do anything else, practice self-care. Your self-care practice is entirely your own. This means doing things that make you feel good and help you relax. Have fun and eat healthy food you love. As long as whatever you do is not at the cost of your own health.
Be Kind to Yourself: An Important Part of Self-Acceptance
Try to think positively about yourself. Talk to yourself compassionately and avoid self-judgement. You are the one who has to live with yourself. We only have a limited amount of time on this earth, so why waste it feeling bad about yourself? Be kind to yourself and fill yourself up with positive energy, because when you do that, you will start radiating that out into the world.
You are allowed to be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time. You are beautiful even if you still want to grow. Recognise that human optimisation is not about changing who you are, but about building on the wonderful foundation you already have. In order to become your best self, you must first get in touch with who you really are. It is only the knowledge of your true self that will set you free from insecurities and false perceptions of your own identity. To find your true self, you must fully accept yourself, let go of all self-judgment, and realise your own value.
Don’t Aim for Perfection, Aim to Become Your Best Self
Remember that striving for a goal is great, but striving for perfection is unhealthy and unrealistic. Strive for progress and to feel good. We create expectations of perfectionism and then judge ourselves if we can’t reach them. Perfection isn’t possible, but transformation is. I repeat, perfection isn’t possible, but transformation is. Identify and appreciate everything you’ve done thus far. Be proud of every step you take in the right direction.
Focus on your own progress and becoming the best version of you. There is nothing wrong with being inspired by others and learning from them, but by looking at someone and thinking “why don’t I look like that” or “why am I not as strong” only leads to insecurity and self-judgement. Focus on your own path and becoming the best version of yourself instead of a copy of someone else.
The journey towards complete self-acceptance and self-love can take long, but living in a world where you feel free to just be yourself and embrace who you are without judgement is something worth fighting for every day. This year, I vowed to make it my year of self-love and embracing who I am.
There are still a few habits I want to change, but I can at least say that I really like who I am and that I fully accept who I am in this moment.